Wow…this is a must watch! Absolutely relevant to where I am in my life right now.
Brene Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathise, belong, love. Here she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity.
“Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness…but it appears that it is also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love.”
Brené explores the uncomfortable feeling of vulnerability, and how those who dare to be vulnerable are generally happier and feel more deserving of love.
CONNECTION…it is why we are here, it gives purpose and meaning to our lives…this is what it is all about!
SHAME…can be understood as the fear of disconnection…is there something about me that if other people know it or see it, that I won’t be worthy of connection?
The one thing that keeps us from connection, is our fear that we are not worthy of connection.
…the deeply rooted belief and feeling of “I am not ____ enough!” -> e.g. I am not good enough / thin enough / rich enough / promoted enough ….
…underpinned by excruciating VULNERABILITY.
In order for connection to be able to happen, we need to allow ourselves to be seen!
Brene’s research reveals that people who really have a sense of WORTHINESS, they have a strong sense of LOVE and BELONGING.
The key difference between people with a strong sense of love and belonging and people who struggle with it, is that they truly believe they are worthy of love and belonging.
That’s it, they believe they are worthy! …people living from a deep sense of worthiness…
Characteristics of people with a strong sense of love and belonging:
– simply the courage to be imperfect
– the compassion to be kind to yourself and to others
– to have connection as a result of authenticity
To have connections, be willing to let go of who you think you should be, in order to be who you are.
And finally the fundamental conviction that it is absolutely necessary to fully embrace VULNERABILITY.
…based on the believe that what makes you vulnerable, makes you beautiful!
The willingness to say “I love you” first. The willingness to do something where there are no guarantees. The willingness to invest into a relationship that may or may not work out.
The way to LIVE is to live with VULNERABILITY and to stop CONTROLLING & PREDICTING.
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